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Damn Good Answer And It Came From A Woman
Name - Sarah (United States)
Topic - Culture & Society
Title - Female-Led Prayers: A Step Forward for Women?
Question - On March 18, 2005 Amina Wadud led the first female-led Jumu`ahPrayer. On that day, women took a huge step towards being more like men.But, did we come closer to actualizing our God-given liberation?
Date - 2005/3/28
This answer was kindly provided by Sister Yasmin Mogahed, a member of AskAbout Islam Editorial Staff. Yasmin is an Egyptian-American journalist basedin Wisconsin, USA. She is currently studying for a Master's degree in Journalism.
Salam,
Sarah. Thank you for your inspiring question! Well, answering your question, I can say that I don't think so.
What we so often forget is that God has honored women by giving them valuein relation to God-not in relation to men. But as Western feminism erasesGod from the scene, there is no standard left but men. As a result, theWestern feminist is forced to find her value in relation to a man. And in sodoing, she has accepted a faulty assumption. She has accepted that man isthe standard, and thus a woman can never be a full human being until shebecomes just like a man-the standard.
When a man cut his hair short, she wanted to cut her hair short. When a manjoined the army, she wanted to join the army, and so on. She wanted thesethings for no other reason than because the "standard" had it.
What she didn't recognize was that God dignifies both men and women in theirdistinctiveness, not their sameness. And on March 18, Muslim women made thevery same mistake.
For 1,400 years, there has been a consensus of scholars that men are to leadPrayer. As a Muslim woman, why does this matter? The one who leads Prayer isnot spiritually superior in any way. Something is not better just because aman does it. And leading Prayer is not better just because it is leading.Had it been the role of women or had it been more divine, why wouldn't theProphet have asked Lady `A'ishah or Lady Khadijah, or Lady Fatimah-thegreatest women of all time-to lead? These women were promised heaven and yetthey never led Prayer.
But now, for the first time in 1,400 years, we look at a man leading Prayerand we think, "That's not fair." We think so, although God has given nospecial privilege to the one who leads. The imam is no higher in the eyes ofGod than the one who prays behind. On the other hand, only a woman can be amother. And the Creator has given special privilege to a mother. The Prophettaught us that heaven lies at the feet of mothers. But no matter what a mandoes, he can never be a mother. So why is that not unfair?
When asked who is most deserving of our kind treatment? The Prophet replied"your mother" three times before saying "your father" only once. Isn't thatsexist? No matter what a man does, he will never be able to have the statusof a mother.
And yet even when God honors us with something uniquely feminine, we are too busy trying to find our worth in reference to men, to value it or evennotice it. We too have accepted men as the standard; so anything uniquelyfeminine is, by definition, inferior. Being sensitive is an insult, becominga mother is a degradation. In the battle between stoic rationality(considered masculine) and selfless compassion (considered feminine),rationality reigns supreme.
As soon as we accept that everything a man has and does is better, all thatfollows is just a knee jerk reaction: if men have it, we want it too. If menpray in the front rows, we assume this is better, so we want to pray in thefront rows too. If men lead Prayer, we assume the imam is closer to God, sowe want to lead Prayer too. Somewhere along the line, we've accepted thenotion that having a position of worldly leadership is some indication ofone's position with God.
A Muslim woman does not need to degrade herself in this way. She has God asa standard. She has God to give her value; she doesn't need a man here.
In fact, in our crusade to follow men, we, as women, never even stopped toexamine the possibility that what we have is better for us. In some cases,we even gave up what was higher only to be like men.
Fifty years ago, we saw men leaving the home to work in factories. We weremothers. And yet, we saw men doing it, so we wanted to do it too. Somehow,we considered it women's liberation to abandon the raising of another humanbeing in order to work on a machine. We accepted that working in a factorywas superior to raising the foundation of society-just because a man did it.
Then after working, we were expected to be superhuman-the perfect mother,the perfect wife, the perfect homemaker, and have the perfect career. Andwhile there is nothing wrong, by definition, with a woman having a career,we soon came to realize what we had sacrificed by blindly mimicking men. Wewatched as our children became strangers, and soon recognized the privilegewe'd given up.
And so only now-given the choice-women in the West are choosing to stay hometo raise their children. According to the United States Department ofAgriculture, only 31 percent of mothers with babies, and 18 percent ofmothers with two or more children, are working fulltime. And of thoseworking mothers, a survey conducted by Parenting Magazine in 2000, foundthat 93 percent of them say they would rather be home with their kids, butare compelled to work due to "financial obligations." These "obligations"are imposed on women by the gender sameness of the modern West and removedfrom women by the gender distinctiveness of Islam.
It took women in the West almost a century of experimentation to realize aprivilege given to Muslim women 1,400 years ago. Given my privilege as awoman, I only degrade myself by trying to be something I'm not, and in allhonesty, don't want to be-a man. As women, we will never reach trueliberation until we stop trying to mimic men and value the beauty in our own God given distinctiveness.
If given a choice between stoic justice and compassion, I choose compassion.And if given a choice between worldly leadership and heaven at my feet, I choose heaven.
I hope my words answer your question. In case you have any comment or you need more about the topic, please don't hesitate to contact us again. Thankyou and please keep in touch.
Salam.
Aizuddin, thanks for the pointer.
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